Within five minutes, I had my hand over my mouth in disbelief. It was like someone had finally said all the things I’ve spent years trying to explain—but better, cleaner, funnier, and with zero awkward pauses.

I love positive feedback. I love giving it more than anything else in my role. Of course I love receiving it too. Rolling around in it like a golden retriever in freshly folded laundry…

Oh, she showed up.

She’s not here to de-escalate,

She’s not here to circle back,

She’s here in day-three dry shampoo, holding a fake Slack channel, and a lit match whispering… “try me.”

Own your narrative before someone else writes it for you. (Don’t let people assume, we all know that old chestnut about ASSuming)

Your work should speak for itself. Your experience should be enough. You should just be able to apply, get interviewed, and be judged solely on your skills.

Try saying that to a retail manager.

I’d left our loft less than a minute earlier to grab the mail, just four floors down. He asked, “Why are you calling me?” I laughed and said something with zero relevance and pretended to make conversation.

You ever lie awake at midnight, staring at the ceiling like it holds the answers, running through your usual career crisis thoughts? Mine used to go something like this…

It’s been there for countless speaking engagements, over 1,500 coaching calls, and more career pivots than I ever planned for. It’s seen late-night deck building, early-morning client calls, and at least 100 moments where I stared into the mirror (void) thinking, What have I done?

The Solopreneur Sunday Scaries hit different when you’re living the dream but also the dream comes in the form of a beautifully orchestrated rainbow colored Tetris expert level schedule. (Thank you to my amazing team for somehow making it all work somehow, every time I’m like, please just fit in one more call !!!)

Do not be surprised when that candidate say no and speaks publicly about it because of all the red flags you have shown them in the process. A quick peek at Glassdoor confirms these red flags may be real.

Main character energy isn’t about having it all figured out. It’s knowing you don’t need the whole script to make your next move. It’s owning the messy middle and making the plot twist work for you.

I used to think rest meant turning off. But my brain doesn’t do off- ever. What it needs is the right space to focus and BE. At home, every inch feels like a to-do list in house form. It’s where work is always within reach, where my mind automatically starts planning. 

Jumped industries? That’s adaptability.

Took a “random” job? Bet you use those skills every day.

Made a lateral move? Probably set you up for something bigger.

Half the people you think are ‘killing it’ are also up at midnight Googling ‘Is it normal to hate my job this much?’, "HOW DO I WRITE A COVER LETTER" and scrolling LinkedIn like it’s a lever on a slot machine that will eventually win big.

Not because they aren’t great students. Not because they aren’t kind. Their report cards prove they’re doing all the right things, working hard, following the rules, helping others.

But here’s what she’s realized: If no one notices, it doesn’t count ( ps, LinkedIn and your Resume are like that too). If you are consistent, people don’t notice you doing something new or novel as a helper, it’s just assumed.

“Okay, but what if they misunderstand? What if they need more context? What if they think I’m being abrupt? Let me just quickly explain the full background, my entire thought process, a list of alternative solutions, a self-aware joke to soften the delivery, a casual yet strategic call to action, and…oh wait, is this too long? Should I add an ‘anyway’ at the end to make it seem breezy?”

And just like that (oh yeah, I Carrie Bradshaw-ed this one, sure did), your brain decides to take a perfectly neutral message and turn it into a full-blown psychological thriller:

AMBIGUOUS TITLES CAN BE A BLESSING.

If you have a less than desirable title or are looking at a better company but a downgrade in level, but you have an amazing job offer... see if there is some room for negotiating or wiggle room in how you frame it on future resumes or LinkedIn. Always be thinking several steps ahead, and LinkedIn titles are a FREE negotiating point for those orgs who are tapped out of money.